A post by Danger and Play came across my Twitter feed today and after reading it,I had to laugh. I really hate to get on the man, most of his stuff is solid as hell. But here, he hasn’t figured it out yet:
“Quite a lot of bad advice is circulating around recently. Guys are saying that college is a scam and that a man can waste his 20s goofing off and partying. That advice is based in large part on the common human mindset that the party never ends.
You simply do not have as much time as you think.”
I’ve heard this all my life. I understand that D&P is a young man but he’s completely mistaken where he says you don’t have as much time as you think you do, given catastrophic illness or accident, you actually do. I’m fifty one and I know as long as I don’t do something stupid, I have, given my family genetics at least twenty more years left in this life. To do with as I wish. I sometimes wonder to my self, “Shit, twenty more years?” “What the fuck am I going to do next?” He uses a guy near my age he talked to as an example:
“I spoke to a 54-year old recently. He owned his own business for over a decade. After a friend ripped him off, the company folded.
Considering this man’s business, you’d think employers would be lining up to hire him at a discount. Everyone who works in IT takes continuing classes to get certifications. Those certifications mean something. This man used to teach classes to IT professionals. He was the certifying agency.
Yet he can’t find a corporate job. He is not in denial about his situation. He told everyone who would listen, “Start your own business. After 50, you are shit. I taught those fuckers and they won’t hire me.”
That’s the problem right there, he wants a corporate job. Hell my past career entailed quite a few corporate jobs but I was able to escape that crap with experience and knowledge. And these days, who the hell wants to work in the corporate slaughterhouses anymore. Not any man I know. Plus, that’s essentially what they are, slaughterhouses for your soul and masculinity. Then he makes probably the most ludicrous statement I’ve ever heard from a man:
“Once a man is over 50, he is dead to the world. In America a 50-year-old man is not having sex with the hottest, youngest women. He is not getting good jobs in corporate America. He is out to pasture.
If a 50-year-old man is dead, a 30-year-old man is dying.”
I beg to differ, given my experiences
“If you’re not set in your career by 30, companies will give you a funny look. Maybe you had a perfectly good reason to have a late start. People will want to know, though and they will assume you’re aimless and unreliable.”
I realize that D&P doesn’t have the perspective that I might have, but this is a completely wrong assumption on his part. Hell, if you have taken the right career path like I’ve documented in earlier posts, your life is just beginning. Just look at the graph I posted above, in your forties you are just being seen as the epitome of your SMP value. I’ve lived that graph and I can understand where a younger guy might not see it. And being over fifty dead to the world? Don’t make me laugh, there’s not a day goes by where one of my previous employers tries to get me to come out of retirement. Why? Because I know my shit and I take care of myself and my health. This part of his article really made me laugh:
“Dead at 50, dying at 30. Let’s look at the depressing timeline:
- 25-33: Slave away at a career, build a name for yourself and showing that you can take a lot of pain. Something needs done on Friday at 5 p.m.? You’re the man to do it.
- 34-39: Assume increasingly important company roles. Become a junior partner or middle manager.
- 40-44: Now you’re arriving. You are getting older but feel invincible. You are a real partner or a vice president.
- 45-50: Begin being marginalized at your company.
- 51: Fight every day to avoid becoming a Wal-Mart greeter.
Personally, I’ve never met a Wal-Mart greeter younger than seventy and if you take a bit of time to talk to them, they’ll tell you that they really don’t need the job, they do it because they like the personal interactions that come with the job. That’s the problem these days, nobody talks to anyone and sometimes I come off as a bit weird to people who know me because I approach and talk to everyone who interests me. That includes Wal-Mart greeters. And as for being dying at thirty and dead at fifty, don’t make me laugh anymore than I have at this article.
D&P, I understand that you are a young guy trying to get by in this world. You need to read the commentariat on this site, you might learn how the world works.
It’s definitely not volunteering for the corporate slaughterhouse.