I don’t know if you’ve heard of a woman named Rori Raye but it seems she has been making a pretty decent living over the past couple of years as a “Love & Relationship Expert” and coach for women. Her catchphrase is “Have the relationship you want”. She’s supposedly married and writes interminably about how good her marriage is, but there’s no evidence anywhere I can find that she’s even married or of her supposed husband.
The reason I’m writing about her is as a lark, I signed up for her email newsletter for shits and giggles about a year ago. Mostly I read the first paragraph and delete it because this woman is so delusional about what it takes to sustain a relationship that at first it was funny, then it got depressing and finally I came to the conclusion that this woman had a further reach than I realized and women all over were listening to completely erroneous advice and we all are doomed.
Then I got today’s newsletter. I read the first paragraph and it was so bizzaro that I had to keep reading. Here’s the first excerpt:
“Have you ever felt completely obsessed by a
Where you can’t eat, sleep, or look at a telephone without thinking about
him her? Where you spend most of your time trying to figure out what went wrong or why he she hasn’t called, or why he’s she’s all of a sudden so distant?
I remember that feeling of dread in my stomach. Most of my clients have been through that – sometimes over and over again. Doesn’t it just make you feel like you’re back in high school?
Like your hormones seem to have complete control over your body and your mind and you’re just living off of the crumbs
he she gives you? Or what you remember he she once gave you?
It doesn’t have to be like that. Just because we’re
women men, because we’re sensitive, kind and caring doesn’t mean we have to give ourselves up to keep our men women.
In Fact, It’s Just The Opposite
We keep our
men women always moving toward us by reducing their importance in our lives. Sounds easy, I know, but truly – there’s a way to make this change for yourself that’s not hard work or painful – it just takes a step-by-step approach, and you have to know the steps.”
I did the strikethroughs and changed the the sex of the person she’s writing about and she is describing your typical blue pill man. Good grief if the rest of her newsletter was changed just like I did in the first paragraph, it would be valuable Red Pill advice for any man. I think I’ll do just that with the rest of what she wrote:
“I remember a
man woman taking over so many of my thoughts that it seemed like he she was taking over my life, too. And I remember that happening over and over again, like a record I couldn’t turn off. It would be a different man, woman but the same record. I felt humiliated.
But I figured it out, and when I did, the record stopped and the
men women who showed up were completely different than those men women I’d been so hung up on. That’s when my husband wife showed up, and I was able to fall in love with him her, let him her pursue me and WIN me, marry me – all without hearing those obsessive thoughts in my head.
And if I did it, I KNOW you can.”
Think about that last paragraph if you’re a man. This is exactly what most men don’t do because their thirst for love, sex and companionship completely overrides the real reason they’re alive, to build and sustain civilization. Genetic propagation is just a side effect,and a very real one. You’ll love this next paragraph:
“Even if you’ve never had a full-blown obsession with a
man woman, where you can barely imagine living without him her and always live in fear of him her breaking up with you, have you ever run your schedule around him her?
Made your plans around
him her? Watched what you said and didn’t say around him her? Wanted to make him her happy and make him her love you so much that you forgot how to just be yourself? Thought his her moods were your fault? Thought when he she withdrew that what you needed to do was be “nicer” and “more understanding?”
Well, the first thing to do that will work the fastest to reduce the importance of a
man woman in your life (even if he’s she’s THE most important thing, I don’t want you to allow him her to become the ONLY important thing) is to stop doing all of the above.”
Flip the genders in that paragraph like I did with the strikeouts and it’s perfect advice for any man like us out there. You would think that this women has been reading our stuff and reincorporated it into advice for all the manjawed, past the wall women that she makes her money coaching. It gets better:
- No scheduling or making plans around
- No watching what you say and don’t say.
- No trying to make
him her happy or make him her love you.
- No “nice” and no “understanding” when something
he she does or doesn’t do makes YOU unhappy.”
Flip the sexes and that’s pure Red Pill for a man who wants his relationships with women to be as healthy as they can be in the SMV that we’re surrounded by these days. This last paragraph is classic and by flipping the genders written about we can see what a man should do regarding his life and how he should live it:
“I call this “Out the Window”:
- You look out a window and imagine what it is that you love (aside from
- Imagine the love in your heart, all that energy and sweetness and passion, going out the window to that thing you love – it might be painting, or the beach, or giving to those less fortunate, or helping people in your special, unique way
These two steps sound easy, and they are. If you’re willing. (It is easy for a man.)
Because before you can make any kind of change, you have to want to. And it’s hard to want something you’ve never seen or done before (except with
men women you don’t care about). It’s hard to believe, if you’ve never seen it work, that it WILL work. And yet, I’ve seen it work brilliantly in my own life, and in the lives of all my clients. (All women by the way and looking at her I’m not too optimistic that they’re too haaapy.)
It works. You won’t be the one
woman man it doesn’t work for. No matter how unusual you believe you are, no matter how low your self-esteem, no matter how scattered your thoughts or how negative you feel right at this moment, it will work.
If you seem to have lost the passion in your relationship, and your
man woman has started taking you for granted, there are certain things you can do that will fire him her up again and make him her remember the woman man he she fell in love with.”
This next excerpt really made an impression on me because it perfectly describes what a man should do on a date but she writes it as what a woman should do. Read this with the genders flipped and see if the man would be successful where as if the woman did this, I’d be checking out as soon as I could:
“As soon as you stop doing all the
man-woman-pleasing behaviors you’ve been doing, you’ll see two things happen:
man woman, or the man woman emailing you, or the man woman you’re meeting for a first date at a coffee shop, will sit up and notice that YOU’RE A VERY COOL GIRL MAN:
He’ll She’ll notice you’re cool, because you’ll probably be the first woman man he’s she’s met who doesn’t need to think about how HE’S SHE’S doing before she he thinks about how SHE’S HE’S doing!
He’ll She’ll notice that there’s absolutely no pressure in being with you.
He’ll She’ll notice that you trust yourself enough to be yourself instead of wondering and caring what he she thinks about you.
He’ll She’ll notice that you TRUST HIM HER enough to be yourself instead of wondering and caring what he she thinks about you.
And it’ll be such a relief, such a powerful, mysteriously sexy thing for
him her to be with a woman man who puts herself himself first, he’ll she’ll be like a kid in a toy store, and you’re the best toy.
his her energy come toward you in a different way than you’re used to. Instead of working hard to get his her interest, instead of working at being smart, clever, charming and appealing, you’ll be shocked to notice he she just thinks YOU ARE smart, clever, charming, appealing, and totally sexy.
You lean back, and
he she leans forward. And that’s only step one.”
Classic Game for men. This past the wall women is trying to teach it to women which is in no way going to work. It’s almost like a blueprint for men once you change the sexes in what she wrote.
Well now we see what we are up against. This is just one more example of woman coaches, teachers or advice givers encouraging women to act like men in their dating lives. Shit like this just makes me want to run for the hills given what I’ve seen lately on my little island when it comes to completely undateable single women. Thing about it is, this type of advice is ubiquitous in every type of media that women surround themselves with.
Universe help us all.